Most of us have heard the advice that we need to have mentors. Many have even heard that to qualify a mentor the mentor, at least, has achieved the results that you want.
In today’s post I want to take this advice a bit further with this shift… Seek mentors first to develop values that are conducive to the life that you want. Don’t just seek mentors that simply have the results that you want. Focus on the values they hold.
In the today’s day-and-age there is major emphasis placed on wealth. We seem to wear it on our sleeves as if this is the most important value or piece of information about a person. My thought is that many of us are seeking the wrong things (wealth, possessions, status, image, etc) and this may be the very reason many of these things are eluding most.
A little known secret about creating the life that you want is that the glorified aspects (lifestyle, wealth, money, etc.) are many times the offspring of specific values that a person has developed in their life. This may seem counterintuitive at first, considering all of the practices and teaching about visualizing what you want and setting concrete goals.
But the question is: Do the goals have to be monetary or material?
How about holding a value set as the goal or visualizing being the type of person you want to be? We are all seeking something that we think will make us feel a certain way. Many times we think accomplishing a goal will transform us in to the person we want to be. One of the common things I hear from people is that they will be generous when they have enough money to be. The flaw in this thinking is that the value of generosity must be cultivated, it doesn’t just appear in a person’s life.
Here’s the take home. Seek mentors that have the values that you want to have in the future. Learning the values that someone holds deeply will take a little more than looking at their rank on the Forbes List. It will take time, discussion, and transparency.
Is the individual you are seeking to emulate really the type of value-based person you want to be?
Dr. Lee is a nationally celebrated author, international speaker, and CEO of CMLEEJR Companies. LLC, a personal development brand that conducts seminars on high performance and mental conditioning for teams, organizations and students.
He holds a degree in Biology (B.S.) from University of the Incarnate Word, and degrees in medicine (M.D.) and business (M.B.A.) from Drexel University. A decorated war veteran, Dr. Lee served in the United States Air Force for 10 years with several assignments, his last being a flight surgeon flying the T-38 and U-2 airframes at Beale AFB, CA.
Dr. Lee is the author of the inspirational memoir “Well, My Mom Says…” as well as the recently released “PERSIST” in 2017. He is a columnist for several publications and his work has been featured in Live Happy Magazine, Black Fitness Today, and Essence Magazine to name a few. He regularly appears as a on-air TV health expert and has been featured in segments on ABC, CBS, and FOX television stations.
Recently, Dr. Lee was named Top 40 under 40 by the Sacramento Business Journal (2014) and Drexel University (2016). He was honored as one of the top healthcare entrepreneurs to know by Becker’s Hospital Review, and is one of the latest recipients of the Black Enterprise Modern Man award in 2016.
Dr. Lee is a devoted husband and father. He lives in CA and loves spending time with his wife and 3 children.
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